Nicole
Draszow
Introduction
“Amor fati" is a Latin expression that can be translated as ‘love of fate’ or ‘love of destiny.’ It is used to describe an attitude in which everything that happens in life, including suffering and loss, is seen as good or at least necessary. The maxim was coined by Friedrich Nietzsche in 1881, and he is considered by some to be the founder of the philosophy of life.
About Nicole
Hello, I'm Nicole – a person who lives life with joy, depth, and love.
My path led me to Berlin early on, where I studied acting and learned to understand and embody emotions in all their facets. But at some point, I felt that life itself – and especially its finiteness – was calling me even more strongly.
I began my training as a death and bereavement counselor and followed this inner voice.
Death is a part of life, and yet we often try to push it out of our consciousness.
Yet, there is great clarity and gentleness in encountering transience.
Today, I work as end-of-life doula and IntoBeing® coach.
I accompany people non-judgmentally to their inner place of strength – during times of farewell, change, or reorientation.I help you break out of the rat race, take responsibility for your life, and hold on to both: the joy and the pain.
Because life encompasses everything.
And therein lies its beauty.
Our Offerings
Stage 1
Chaos
In this first stage, you learn to regain orientation amid confusion and shock. You explore what needs to be handled on a practical level and gain clarity about what lies ahead in this phase. You also begin to understand and contextualize your grief.
Stage 2
A Meaningful Farewell Letting Go
Together we explore what you personally need in order to create a farewell that feels authentic and healing for you. You learn to live your grief consciously, to accept support, and to bridge the gap between life with and life without your loved one, step by step.
Stage 3
And Now?
You learn to accept that while the world keeps turning for others, it’s okay if it still feels quiet for you. You practice showing and living your personal grief and allowing help. Step by step, you begin to manage your daily life within your new reality.
Stage 4
Setting the Sails for the Future
Here you learn to release the constant cycle of thoughts and find inner calm and clarity again. You begin to redefine death and life, to understand and stabilize your emotions, and to dissolve guilt and emotional entanglements that make the loss unnecessarily painful.
Stage 5
Returning to Life and Joy
You step into a new chapter of your life. You learn to see the death of your loved one as an important chapter in your story — but not the one that defines it. You learn to live in your new normal with loving memories, inner peace, and renewed trust in life.
Testimonials
Nicole accompanied me with such loving and empathetic support as my father lay dying. Time was running out, and the farewell drew ever closer. Her presence was like a tissue that dried my tears at just the right moment. Like a straw I could cling to when things got tough. Like a comfort blanket that offered me solace and courage. And at the same time, like a friend with whom I could laugh despite all the pain.
With Nicole, I was able to discover the beauty within grief and, at the same time, find the courage to forge my own path in saying goodbye and burying a loved one. She encouraged me to explore alternative funeral arrangements and showed me that I could shape my own path with complete autonomy – free from norms, conventions, and the expectations of others, exactly as I felt was right.
With you, dear Nicole, I was able to consciously and autonomously shape my farewell, at my own pace. For that, I am deeply grateful.
- Anika G.
The challenge was that I was initially a bit lost and didn't know exactly what was expected of me when we were "finding the topic." What I particularly appreciated in the conversation was that you met me at a point I hadn't expected at all, and I could truly see that I myself am the key to change, and that it lies not in external factors. I would definitely recommend you and already have. I think your approach and your enthusiasm for this topic are unique. And I believe that's precisely why you will not only inspire other people with this enthusiasm but also, through your approach, encourage them to look at their own side of the street. For me, the change has been that I've realized that the way I do something isn't necessarily the best way for someone else, and that I need to learn to observe instead of judging (in my relationship).
– Jennifer B.
I met Nicole in a Moment of deep crisis when I lost 2 of my cats - and had the feeling I needed not only support in getting over this, but moreover finding a better way of handling death, as I realized it is a crucial part of life. Seen that the death of my cats hit me so hard, it also was special as for many people animals do not have the same importance than human beings, and in my surrounding many people did not understand my grief and desperation. Since the first time we met, Nicole gave me such a warm, welcoming feeling and really understood my grief, and showed me that it is fully normal, it is allowed and at the same time showed me ways how to handle my loss. And the more we talked, the more I could really recover, and handle my deep grief better. Its been quite a journey since then, as Nicole within the last months has become a very important part of my life as a guide and coach - in very different life occasions, starting with deep grief, but also joy and other life changing experiences. So Nicole is the best thing that can happen in someone’s life in times of crisis, but also if having the wish of changing, or simply finding new ways of perceiving life. Nicole is one of the most heartful and kindest persons I have met and next to her amazing personality she is an amazing coach, with an impressive range of experience and tool box.
- Ann-Sophie S.
I'm so impressed by the details you notice and how clearly you remember our conversation from three months ago and were able to pick up where we left off! Excellent work! I definitely feel seen.
- Melanie K.
I felt very well supported during the conversation/exchange. I had the impression that I was listened to attentively and that precise questions were asked. I was experiencing a relatively acute emotional situation and decided to focus on this topic that day, rather than what I had originally planned to ask/discuss. It helped that we already knew each other. I was able to access my feelings and will be able to maintain this connection through the process of understanding and processing them during the conversation. This is direct feedback for the trainer. My challenge is accepting help and being emotionally vulnerable. You, dear Nicole, guided me well over this hurdle. My visit with R. today went better than I had anticipated. Thank you! I highly recommend this because it's clearly evident that you are listened to attentively, your stories are taken seriously, and the questions create a clarity that I hadn't expected in such a short time. Based on this, I can move forward and can imagine continuing with the coaching.
- Anneke R.
I felt completely at ease with you. In my opinion, you are very professional, calm, and focused. You started off relaxed and easygoing, then smoothly transitioned into a professional conversation. You are personable and come across as very warm in your interactions with me as a client. I felt incredibly well cared for. I learned a lot about myself today and was able to open up immediately. At the end, you gently brought the conversation to a close and asked how I was doing. I feel well supported, understood, and guided by you. Thank you!
- Aminata S.
I would recommend Nicole. We didn't know each other beforehand, but we quickly clicked. The communication beforehand was very pleasant. Thank you for the experience and the new perspective.
- Susann T.
Nicole, you tore my house down. You sat with me amidst the rubble and didn't judge, nor did you force me to change anything. While I repeatedly tried to justify the house and its construction, you offered me a new component that could make it more stable, and then another, and another. I took some of them, others I haven't been able to install yet. But the pieces you gave me are already more than enough and so precious. Thank you ♥️
- Louisa R.
The coaching session truly helped me to recognize my emotional state, which I had initially viewed superficially, within a deeper context and to explore it, along with the needs and desires arising from it. Your questions were invaluable. They encouraged me to reflect on my feelings and thoughts and not simply dismiss them as fleeting emotions. Your empathetic approach allowed me to recognize that many of my current feelings have deeper roots that I hadn't previously examined sufficiently. I appreciate the trusting atmosphere you created during our conversation. This made me feel safe enough to speak openly about my innermost thoughts and fears. I'm excited about the next steps in my process. Thank you so much for your support and your time, Sofie :-)
- Sofie M. S.
Nicole is a very special person to me. That familiar feeling was instantly there again, and I was able to open up immediately, pick up where we left off in our first conversation, and deepen it. I was able to understand the reasons why things are the way they are, and we talked about ways to improve them, which I'm already successfully implementing... Thank you, Nicole! ❤️
- Tina S.
